#hacking | #datingformen | 50+ Best Facebook Dating Opening Lines and Icebreakers for Guys

Match Group Inc. has monopolized online dating. The company owns dating app favorites such as OkCupid, POF, Hinge, Match.com, and of course, Tinder.

It seemed as though no other company could ever get in the way of Match Group’s stronghold on the industry of digital love. There is, of course, one company that has been plotting its demise for years. 

On September 5th of this year, Match Group Inc. experienced a 7.2% fall in the stock market, it’s biggest of the year. It just so happens that on this very day Facebook launched Facebook Dating.

If there’s one company that could knock Match Group and its bundle of dating apps off its perch, it’s Facebook. The social media king launched its dating feature in 19 countries before making it available to stateside users.

While Facebook refuses to release data revealing how many people use Facebook Dating, considering that 69% of Americans use the app every month, we can assume that its now one of the largest online dating pools in America. 

With the social power that Facebook has, it’s safe to say that the social media app will attract millions of users to its newest product. Make yourself one of the most desirable bachelors on the dating service by learning how to construct appealing facebook dating opening lines. 

During my 100-date experiment, I assessed thousands of online dating profiles through various websites and apps. As a dating coach, I understand that it’s important to keep on top of dating trends and changes in the dating apps I used when I was still single. For that reason, I decided to do a little investigative research by creating a new Facebook Dating account. Here’s my profile.

Informed by my past experience and through research performed through my FB Dating test account, I’ve compiled a list of the best Facebook Dating opening lines. 

Think of your profile as almost a Google query. Using certain keywords such as chess: scuba diving, coaching, etc., will attract people of similar interests.

You just need to worry about presenting this information in a way that sustains another user’s attention for a whopping 10 seconds.

Facebook Opening Lines For Guys

#1: Targeted & Open-Ended Question

Love this because he’s addressing my profile. Speaking to something in one of these four categories (favorites, hobbies, family, pets) will elicit an emotional reaction and make it more likely that she’ll respond. Think about it. What’s the easiest way to engage someone in a conversation? Easy. Just talk about things they already like.  

#2: Ask A Question About Something She’s Written on Her Profile

Like this question because it’s open-ended, not something I’m just going to say ‘yes’ or ‘no’ to. Just make sure to ask a thoughtful question so you add value. It also shows that the guy invested an entire 10 seconds to read my profile. 

Best Facebook Dating Opening Lines #3: Keep Me Stimulated

I love what he wrote because he didn’t just speak to the books’ titles. He’s doing an excellent job of connecting to me on an emotional and stimulating level. It’s clear he’s read these books because he knows the names of both of the main characters.

Now I’m curious about whether he also loves these books or if he’s just an avid reader. He’s also not asking a broad question, he’s showing me he knows the specifics of these books (the names of the main characters).

If you’re going to ask a woman about a favorite book/tv show/movie/musician/food, rather than ask a general question, try to go one level deeper by using a more specific element within that topic. For help with this, download my Mega Message Template. This template will help you create fantastic opening lines that hit at the heart. 

#4: Accelerate A Bond

I actually asked this question but I wanted to share it because I love Rumi too and the fact that he had Rumi on his profile compelled me to reach out to him.

Look for those pieces on her profile that are going to elicit an emotional reaction. That is key to making her want to read, respond, and say yes to a date with you. It can also prompt a woman who shares a commonality to reach out to you. Though keep in mind, women tend not to initiate as much as men do. 

Best Facebook Dating Opening Lines #5: Direct & Honest

I thought this message was super interesting. I love that he spelled my first name correctly, very thoughtful. I love the thoughtfulness, transparency, and the fact that this message was so off-the-beaten-path.

The takeaway here is that the guy didn’t waste any time. On dating apps, women receive dozens of matches and monotonous messages every day. You’ve got to shoot your shot and stand out as quickly as possible. 

#6: Don’t Just Focus On Her Beauty

A lot of guys opt to like and salivate over a hot profile photo from afar. This is a swing and a miss. A hot girl knows she’s hot, she’s heard it a million times and you’re not really adding any value to her life by liking a photo where she looks hot.

So when you like or heart a photo just because she’s pretty, it’s not as compelling as if you heart a photo where she’s doing an activity and follow that like up with a question. 

This guy commented on my scuba diving photo and I thought it was awesome that he asked me what my favorite scuba diving trip was because it adds value to my life to think back along all the places I’ve been diving to find my very favorite.

It tells me also that we probably share diving in common. This adds value to my life, makes me want to read and respond, and our conversation is now a lot more powerful than it would have been if he’d just liked a cute photo of mine.

#7: Talk About Your Shared Interests

Opposites don’t attract. How many men and women of completely different backgrounds with conflicting political beliefs do you see hand and hand strolling the streets of San Francisco? Whenever you see a shared interest in another user, shape the conversation around that interest. This Facebook Dating icebreakers also gets brownie points for the witty wordplay.

However, it’s also possible that he misspelled “straight.” Always edit your opening line before pressing send. 

#8: Always Keep It Positive

This one is interesting but it could be optimized. What I like is that he used my first name and spelled it correctly. Addressing someone by their name is an easy way to form a bond, incorrectly spelling a name is an easy way to severe that nascent relationship. He didn’t say hi, hey, how are you, hola, or how was your weekend. Instead, he kept it positive, but shouting my (correctly spelled name) to the heavens and complimenting my Monday-kicking butt ability. 

The only thing here is that he didn’t end in a question, so there’s no reason for me to respond. Seeing as though I’m being inundated with messages, you need to stand out from the rest. Requiring me to think up a witty response to your opener decreases the likelihood that I’ll respond. Though all in all, it was a decent opening message.

#9: Always Address Her Profile

I love this comment. If you can find a favorite that you share in common with the woman, that is a powerful connection because it has a story behind it that is deeper than just the title of the movie or book.

For example, Fight Club is my favorite movie and one of the core themes is anti-consumerism. If someone shares that in common as a favorite then it’s likely we might both be minimalists or we might both be very selective about the things we choose to have in our lives. And that’s kind of a value system that we’d share in common. It’s a good way to connect to someone who shares the same values.

Referencing a favorite, the way he did here, makes me curious about him and makes me think that we probably share a lot more in common. The only problem here is that he didn’t end in a question, but I’d probably still respond because it’s clear to me that we have a lot in common.

Funny Facebook Dating Opening Lines For Guys #10: What A Jokester

He’s doing a great job of not using an “H-Factor,” that’s anything that begins with the letter H (outside of “Have you been…”).

These are words like hi, hello, hola, how are you, how was your weekend, etc. These are words that should not be used because they’ve become meaningless to women through overuse. He’s doing a good job of not doing that. He sent a clever message though, I would recommend that if you send a message with a question mark, that you don’t use any other words after that question mark.

That will signal to her that it is her time to respond. If you ask a question and then keep talking, or if you ask multiple questions in the same message it’s going to confuse her and make her less likely to respond.

#11: Umm… Hells Yeah! What I like about Facebook dating is that they connect you to people who share the same event interests. I had expressed interest in wanting to go on a bioluminescence kayaking trip on Facebook and came across somebody’s profile who was also interested in that event. Using this strategy, you can easily TDL a woman in the first message because you already know she’s compelled to do that activity or attend that event.

What an easy way to transition into a first date when you use events you’re both interested in to ignite interest. You already know what’s a compelling event to your match so it becomes very easy to ask them on a date using that information.  

#12: Probing Questions

“I thought this was really cool.” This was actually my message to him up until I saw this message, I thought he was probably kind of conceited because he was a model. The quote he used was powerful so I sent him a message that ended in an open-ended question in the hopes that he’d respond with more than a one-word answer and he did. 

Facebook Dating Opening Lines #13: Ask For A Story

On my profile, I had a picture of myself at Tough Mudder (sporting event) carrying a log, so this guy asked me “where are you taking that log?” I loved this message because it told me he was present and looking at my photos and not saying something generic that every other guy would say, like “you’re so cute” or whatever. Don’t compliment women ever if you can help it and certainly not on their looks because they hear it enough and it’s not very meaningful. 

I liked this message because it made me think first, “what is he talking about?” So I went back to my profile and reviewed what I’d put there.

#14: Add Value With Your Comment

This was a very unique message because I didn’t expect to connect with anyone on such a random activity. It also made me curious about him and about Burning Man in general, which I haven’t been to, but I wanted to know more because it was something so odd that we connected on. So if you’re looking to really stand out from the competition, use something on her profile that is specific and different.

If you see that you guys share something odd in common, speak to that. That’s going to be more compelling to her and it will be much more likely that you’ll get a response than if you speak to the more generic or cliche aspects of her profile. Don’t say something like “I like Netflix too” or “I like to hike to” because everybody does. Look for those specifics that set you apart. 

Best Facebook Dating Opening Lines #15: Respond To The Information You’ve Been Given

I had to message him because I am obsessed with Handmaid’s Tale (the tv show) and The Giver?! We share this book in common as an all-time favorite, which I thought was crazy because the Giver is a book from like 3rd grade that nobody seemed to ever enjoy as much as I did when we had to read it in school. And that is what compelled me to reach out to him.

So if you’re using sites likes Bumble, where the woman has to make the first move, using a very specific book or specific movie or tv show, that is going to compel the woman who shares that favorite thing in common with you, it’s going to compel her to reach out to you. 

#16: Make Me Giggle

This is a clever opener that I played along with. I will say, this is probably where the conversation died, however. It was playful and fun, and I went along with it because it made me laugh. To add a little more depth after this message would have been good. Jokes are great but they need to be easily segued into a TDL.  

#17: Punny

I added this message giphy because I thought it was hilarious. If you want to use a giphy in your message, try to find one that’s really funny or really polarizing. Don’t be bland with it. Sometimes they can work. I will just say though, it’s clear that it doesn’t take a ton of effort to do this so crafting a message is usually going to be the best route but if you can find a hilarious giphy, then give it a try and maybe test it against your messaging by sending 10 giphys one day and measuring your response rates and then sending 10 messages the next day and measuring your response rates. Ideally, the giphy in some way relates to her profile.

#18: Cute Self-deprecation

What I really liked about this message was the second line. Love it. Shows me that he’s humble and self-aware and nice. So naturally, I thought he was really cute.  

#19: TV References

Another giphy. I like this because I can reference Friends. If you’re messaging somebody who is really young and doesn’t understand this reference, obviously you want to use targeted giphys that speak to the audience you’re looking to attract. So I like this because Friends hasn’t been around in the last 10 years or so but it was something that I watched all through growing up and so I felt like we shared that in common and I liked the familiarity that it made me feel, which is a big component in attraction. 

#20: Speak Food To Me

Love it. He is speaking specifically to a favorite I have listed on my profile so it’s going to compel me to respond. The only thing I would say is that if he would have just stopped after that question mark he has there I would have been much more likely to respond because I would have known, “oh it’s my time to respond.” So again, if you have a question mark, you don’t want to add a whole bunch of extra words after that question mark. 

Witty Facebook Dating Opening Lines #21: Make ‘Em Laugh

This message is funny. When I first saw this I was thinking, oh God, not again. Because women get compliments so much that it becomes totally meaningless and we start to kind of hate it because it shows that the guy is not very thoughtful or perceptive. So I saw the first line and I thought, of God, here we go. But then the next line where he says, “we should match and romance the shit out of each other.” Which absolutely caught me off guard with its humor.

That is comedy 101, to create an expectation and then deliver the complete opposite of what the audience is expecting. Really really funny. If you’re going to give a woman a compliment, make it funny!

#22: Appear Genuine In Your Attempt To Learn About Your Match

Like that he used question marks. I think he could have gone with just one question. I like the last question because he’s asking me thoughtful questions about what’s important to me. This adds value to my life because I care about the topic. It’s not like he’s asking me “how are you,” or “how was your weekend?” I don’t care, I already did it. That doesn’t bring value to my life to tell you about it.

And you don’t care either so stop asking lame questions like “how was your day.” But this is cool because he’s asking me a question about something that is important to me. Although in general, I would definitely avoid talking about work in your messaging and on your dates because it’s just not very sexy. 

Facebook Dating Opening Lines #23: When In Doubt, Ask A Question 

This was my message to someone else. Ended in a question mark, referencing a favorite tv show. As a result, should be a pretty good chance that I get a response.

#24: Be Perceptive… It Doesn’t Take Much

A question that makes me curious, makes me want to respond. I am testing this app so it’s interesting to me that they were so perceptive that they figured it out. Although it does say that I’m conducting research on my profile. 

Facebook Dating Opening Lines #25: Test Her Knowledge

I have it on my profile that I love cornhole. And for my Chicago people who call it Bags and think cornhole is something else, just so you know it’s Bags I’m referring to. Anyhow, I didn’t know what he was talking about here but I love playing cornhole, so it compelled me to respond.

Now, How About Some of the Best Facebook Dating Icebreakers For Guys

Opening messages scare the creativity out of a lot of men. With so many options of what to say, they feel paralyzed with this overchoice.

Facebook Dating knows that sending an initial message can be tough. This is why they offer icebreakers to those that have just matched. While penning your own message is advised, if you’re not feeling all too witty after a match, just use an icebreaker.

Best Facebook Dating Icebreaker #26: Fantasize Together

If you don’t know what to say to a woman on a dating app, use an icebreaker. Most of the apps nowadays give you the opportunity to use one of their icebreakers and they’ve been created to help facilitate interaction. So I love this icebreaker and I’d ask this if you don’t already see the answer on her profile. If you already have the answer, it’s like “dude, did you read it?”

#27: It’s Out There

Messaging “hey” is a pandemic. According to our own research, 70% of men send an initial message that’s either “hey” or a “hey” variation. Don’t be a “hey” guy. Your mission is to stand out. The icebreaker above stands out not only against a backdrop of “hey” but against even other icebreakers. It’s one of my favorite icebreakers because it’s so out there.

#28: Get Nostalgic

Love this one. Even just thinking for yourself what the answer is is kind of fun because it’s probably something that you haven’t thought of in years or decades even. So that can create a little nostalgia and nostalgia is proven to boost mood and make people feel good and be more receptive. 

#29: Get Personal

Great conversation starter to talk about things that are weird and funny. It definitely could lead to very funny conversations and it would be an interesting line to test 10 or 20 times to see how different people respond. Always ask questions that you’re genuinely interested in knowing the answers to.

Facebook Dating Icebreaker Example #30: Test Your Match

I sent the answer Bhutan and I used that as a qualifier to see if he knew what was special about that location. 

#31: The Weirder The Better

Weird question, a lot like the spirit animal question but kind of a fun one because people don’t ask this question every day. It’s always good if you can come up with a question that has not been asked one million times before.

In fact, I have to just say, if you have these prompts at your disposal, which you do, why are you sending messages that say “hey,” “hi,” “hey cutie,” “how was your day,” don’t do it anymore. Just use a prompt, it’s so easy. 

#32: Speak Emoji To Me

Who doesn’t like a good emoji vomit every once and a while? Some people hate them and others will literally only send emojis when they want to communicate. If you’re sending this icebreaker to a woman that has an emoji fetish, she’ll be all too happy to respond with 5 or 55 emojis. 

#33: Ask Probing Open-Ended Questions

Let me think. That should be her first response when she receives an initial message. A question that’s too complex or taxing will be pushed aside. Just make sure that whatever you’re asking is capable of being answered within one minute. No need to ask her to help you solve Cicada 3301. 

Creative FB Dating Icebreaker #34: Allow Her To Daydream

Fantasizing is what makes this world sane. Instead of asking her about her word, using this icebreaker allows you to tell you who she wants to be. This is an uplifting icebreaker that can easily lead to a positive and in-depth conversation. 

#35: Get Her Humming

Because of the many powerful associations, we have with music, discussing our favorite tunes is an easy way to generate a bond. Perhaps you’ll be able to parlay this icebreaker into a TDL involving live music. 

#36: Keeping It Pertinent

Asking her about her day allows her to broach fresh situations that will inform you of the person she is. Remember that these initial messages aren’t just about creating attraction, they’re about figuring out if you even like this person. If her response is, “when I finally come home and wash off the smell of dead bodies” maybe it wasn’t meant to be. 

#37: Ask Her To Talk About What’s Important To Her

Love this question so much because the answer to this question tells you about the family, tells you about what they love, what they care about, what’s important. It definitely gets to the heart of the matter. 

#38: Keep It Edgy

This question could bring up some pretty funny answers. It could also bring up some pretty crappy memories. When asking edgy questions always be prepared to guide the conversation back to lighter topics and always inject levity when possible. 

#39: Test Her Wit

Everyone wants to play a little. No matter how old or dorky some questions might be, if they ask that the recipient plays a little game, they’re likely to receive an answer. 

Facebook Dating Icebreakers #40: Grow Together

Reminding her of the best positive advice she’s received will make her want to honor that advice by carrying it out. Whether the advice pertains to fear, love, or work, she’ll automatically become a better all-around person when the advice is brought up. Not only did you just remind someone to be better with one click but now you’re associated with that advice. 

#41: Classic Icebreaker

Love this. This could be used as a great qualifier to figure out if the woman you’re messaging is really living her true purpose. If she’s really on track with her life and pursues what she truly cares about or if she’s holding back in her life and not happy. 

#42: Borderline Cliche, But It Gets A Pass

This question only gets the go-ahead because it allows you to fantasize. This is a classic icebreaker question that we’ve all either used or have received before. Just hope that she hasn’t just been asked this same icebreaker or else you’ll be viewed as lame and redundant. 

#43: Hardcore Openers

Love this question! So unique, so off-the-beaten-path. Absolutely would use this question a million times. And it would be fun to do a test where you ask this question for a week, you ask like 70 people, and you just see the different answers.

#44: A Classic Twist

This is a classic twist on the “If you could eat dinner with any three people, who would you invite.” This question also takes on a more professional tone. Most likely we’d invite people on to our talk show that we’d want to learn from. Such a question will show you what their aspirations are rather than who they want to get drunk with on a Friday night. 

Facebook Dating Icebreaker #45: Genuinely Original

I’ve literally never heard this question asked before. I’m taken aback by the conundrum this question poses. I may let a ghostwriter finish this blog as I go sort this one out, brb.

#46: Classic But Not In A Bad Way

Such a question tells you what she really wants. Hell, this is a question we should be asking ourselves on a weekly basis. It’s a revealing question, and with dating apps being uber-superficial we need all the mind-bending exchanges we can get.

#47: Ask For A Secret

Phobias tend to get people emotional. Talking about them, thinking about them, sharing their phobias with strangers they met on dating apps is just the kind of thing that gets a person riled up. Don’t stick to mundane topics while getting to know a stranger. Skip past the formalities and get down to the good stuff like paper cuts in the eye.

#48: Associate Yourself With Music

Whenever possible connect yourself with music. If she begins to think of you whenever she hears that song she’s got on repeat you’re likely to be considered more valuable than the rest of the contenders. You’ve already got your own theme music. The next logical step in the convo would be to tell her about the song you’ve currently got on repeat.

#49: Who Do They Want To Be?

To really get to know someone we need to know who they aspire to be. If they respond that they’re content binging cable TV then perhaps you’ll want to keep your romantic search moving.

#50: Let’s Get Frisky

More so than any other icebreaker I’ve seen, it’s this one that lends itself to enable you to pivot from a Facebook Dating icebreaker to a date IRL.

#51: Mhmm Scrumptious

Love this because you can see if you see the same common foods. Then naturally you’ll ask her if she’s ever heard of Smith’s on Spring Street. No, she hasn’t?! Well it looks like you’ll just have to take her there. It’s that easy.

Facebook Dating Opening Lines #52 Why can’t you get a suntan on your palms?

Funny, random,  love it. This actually comes from this great article about Funny Dating Questions. Check out some of the other ones. This question is funny at first, but then it kind of makes you think. It’s these stimulating yet humorous openers that kill it every time.

#53 What kind of puppies do you hate the most?

Here’s a line from the article mentioned above that I’ve been testing lately. And my goal with that is to both entertain myself and to catch the people off guard so they’re like, “What?! This girl is different and interesting… I’m going to respond.”

And when you really think about the answer to this question, everybody has a puppy that they hate. Everybody. And it’s fun to collect the answers too. If you’re doing experimentation-style messaging, it’s like, wow, there’s so many different types of puppies that people hate.

#54 Ever been arrested?

Another great conversation starter both on a date and online. Kind of inappropriate and that’s why it’s fun. Who wants to feel like they’re on an interview with the same dang questions every time. Nobody. Nobody wants that.

So ask some interesting, off-the-cuff questions. Not to mention that this is an edgy question that will immediately open up the person on the other side of the table. When you’re MegaDating you don’t have time to beat around the bush. Ask those probing questions that peel back the layers. 

#55 What do you like to eat to cheer yourself up?

Hmm. Let me watch a video of abandoned puppies, head to the kitchen and get back to you. What we have here is a variation. Typically men are asking what your favorite or guilty pleasure foods are. This is a slightly original take on those questions, one she may not have heard before.

Facebook Dating Opening Lines #56 What is the last movie that made you cry?

Wow, now we’re getting vulnerable. This is the type of question that will crack you open without getting too personal. It’s a safe enough question to respond to because everyone cries at movies. It’s not like you’re asking when the last time she cried was. That can bring up all kinds of daddy issues.

#57 Can you still say ‘Stick it where the sun don’t shine’ on a nude beach?

Random, but interesting, and that’s what it’s all about. While you might not love this opener, it’s infinitely better than “hey, what’s your sign?”

#58 What’s your spirit animal?

There’s a reason this is 58th on the list. It’s great and all but this is the type of question geared more so to 13 year-olds. It’s cliche, kind of boring, and is difficult to transition out of.

#59 If you could pick only one what would you be: attractive, rich, or famous?

Again we have a trite opener that she’s fielded before. Perhaps not within the context of a dating app, but she’s still blase with the question. Not to mention that this question is likely to be answered with a one-word response. Always keep things open-ended.

MegaDate Your Way To Love

One of the best pieces of advice I can give you when it comes to online dating, as well as the dating world in general, is that you should MegaDate. MegaDating is a dating strategy that involves going out with several different women at the same time in order to relieve anxiety and crush your dating goals.

When you MegaDate, you see that there truly are plenty of fish in the sea. This prevents you from settling for the mediocre, getting caught up in the chase and becoming frustrated with your dating life.

Plus, practice makes perfect, so the more you put yourself out there, the more success you’ll find when it comes to looking for a compatible, long-term partner. MegaDating is the main strategy I used during my experiment and it led me to a fulfilling relationship. It worked for me and it can work for you too!

If you want to learn more about MegaDating and would like individualized dating help, head over to my calendar and book a 1-on-1 Skype session with me today. During our session, we will discuss your dating background and goals, create an action plan, and finally discuss my 3-month Signature coaching program.